Episode 13: When No is Your Default Setting
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In All Seriousness
Phase II: Change Bad Habits
During our podcast, Tony advised you to have a default setting of “no” because it’s a safe bet. Do, however, think about it and be open to changing your mind.
He had other tips, too:
- If you say “no,” use the time it gives you to determine if you can indeed do or buy what your partner is proposing.
- Be aware that if you always say “no,” your partner may end up resenting you for it.
- Learn to be balanced with your responses. Saying “yes” all the time can be a problem, too.
During our podcast, Jill said that you should give thought to each question your partner poses, instead of having an automatic response like a reflex.
She also has more advice:
- If your partner says “no” often, ask for the reasons why, but only if you are ready for the answer. Do not ask questions that you in which you really don’t want to know the answers.
- Strive to compromise in situations in which you disagree. That way, neither of you resents the other.
- Empower each other to make decisions on the little things without permission from the other.
Have you tried any of these tips? Which ones worked for you? Leave your answers in the comments section. Subscribe to our blog, so that you don’t miss anything.