Season 2/Episode 11: For Better, For Worse
In All Seriousness
Be There for the Good and Bad
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed the true meaning of the phrase “for better, for worse.”
They believe that some people have a hard time with the “for worse” part because some folks naturally run when things get tough. Life, however, has its ups and downs, and each person must learn to handle both.
They acknowledged that everyone has a different definition of what the phrase means to them, but Tony emphasized that cheating should not be acceptable under anyone’s definition.
Jill reminded listeners that “for better, for worse” deals with extremes. So, if things aren’t the best they could be in your relationship, it doesn’t mean that it’s the worst either.
They both have other suggestions:
- Take your commitments seriously
- Keep your promises
- Do not enable others to treat you badly
What does “for better, for worse” mean to you? Let us know in the comments section. We’d also like to know what you’re doing differently this year.
Thanks for your listening support.
I read a short story (by Grace Paley, I think) about two married people who had an affair, divorced their respective husband and wife, and married each other. Then after being married a while, they had regrets and missed their former spouses. I thought it so ironic and telling about—while maybe not “for better or for worse”—how people do not examine their lives.
I must say here that when Denis and I got married, I really didn’t think deeply about what for better or worse would look like. I just knew I wanted to be with him and that overcame any doubts. After 48 years of marriage, I believe I understand the better or worse concept. I also believe that after many happy, productive years, I am more willing to deal with “worse” as in sickness and loss of fortune than I may have been in the beginning. All though I think I’ve always been willing to deal with whatever. I guess I mean commitment grows.
Okay—I’m going to try amethyst crystals tonight and I love, love Fine Is a Four Letter Word.
What are we doing differently? Doubling down to work on meaningful endeavors during this pandemic. I’m trying to evaluate my feelings as I cross out dentist appointments and social events from my address book. Even though we haven’t seen anyone for nine days other than a grocery pickup, I’m not sure what’s happening has sunk in.
Thanks for your comment. It was packed with many gems.
We especially love hearing from you and Denis because you’ve been married 48 years. We can all learn from you. Yes, we agree that commitment grows.
Your mention of Grace Paley had me looking through her short story collections. Adding it to the ever growing to-be-read list.
When Jill finishes “Fine is a Four Letter Word,” she will send it to you. It’s already taken a turn she didn’t expect, so who knows what the final tale will be.
We are glad you are safe and practicing social distancing during these strange times, as are we. Today’s briefing and guidelines were really eye opening.
Be well. Be safe.
Looking forward to your story!