Season 2/Episode 13: Are You a Pleaser or Do You Just Want to Make Others Happy?
In All Seriousness
Determine What Pleases You
In this week’s episode, Jill learns she may have pleaser tendencies. Do you?
Jill realized that she, in the recent past, said “yes” to what others wanted her to do in her own time when she really wanted to say “no.” She now decides whether she’ll do things by first determining whether it would please her , and she encouraged others to do the same.
Tony told listeners that if they identify themselves as pleasers, and it brings them joy, then great. Keep doing it. If someone doesn’t appreciate or reciprocate what you do for them, however, stop pleasing that person.
Jill and Tony have other suggestions:
- Understand that doing for others is a good thing, but don’t let it interfere with your own purpose in life.
- Don’t exhaust yourself trying to fulfill others’ requests
- Find a way to use your talents and gifts to help others
What about you? Are you a pleaser or someone who just finds ways to help others? Let us know in the comments section.
Also, tell us how your relationships are going in this era of shelter-in-place restrictions. Singles, what are you doing to meet people or date now?
Years ago I read When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. A tenet in the book explained that those who are easily manipulated, probably engage in manipulative behavior themselves. Eye-opening for me. Regardless of having read that book, I’ve still had problems saying no. After all, we want to be liked. Right? Hahaha. And I always feel I can do more than I realistically am able. Recent problems with all that have helped me to prioritize my own goals. I think I’ve lost friends, but I still have quite a few, and I’m more at peace. I’ve learned to steer clear of the person who discounts what I do for them and asks for more . . . and more.
Mary, as always, we thank you for taking the time to comment. We’re adding that book to our reading list. The point you made is definitely eye-opening. We believe that when are friends with the right people, a good match for us, we are more at peace, too. So yes, we can definitely relate to your point about losing connections. Steering clear of energy vampires is a lesson we all need to learn. Be well. Jill is sending you an email later this week.