Season 2/Episode 18: Is Anybody Listening?
In All Seriousness
Hearing vs. Listening
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony debate whether it’s realistic to expect your partner to listen to you 100 percent of the time.
Jill believes that everyone can be better listeners.
Tony says it’s unrealistic to expect someone to stop what they are thinking or doing to listen to you 100 percent of the time.
He told listeners to just “zip it” if they are trying to be a better listener. Know when to speak.
Jill said that if you find that people have to keep repeating things to you, then admit that you’re not listening. Do better next time.
They both have more suggestions:
- Understand that if your partner perceives that you aren’t listening to him/her/they, then you aren’t listening. At least try to change your behavior.
- If you ask questions, wait for and listen to the answers. Don’t be the person that asks questions and tunes out the response.
- If you have no desire to talk to your partner, recognize that you’re in the wrong relationship. Communication is an essential ingredient to any good and lasting relationship.
Who is the best listener in your relationship? Are you a good listener? Tell us your answers in the comments section.
Thanks for listening.