Season 2/Episode 19: When Change is Deliberate
In All Seriousness
Change for the Best Together
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discuss what happens when at least one person in the relationship wants to make a life-altering change.
The couple agreed that all desires for a major change needs to be communicated and discussed.
Tony said that you should all be happy with your life. Don’t rely on others for your happiness.
Jill reminded listeners that dreams generally do not have an expiration date. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, vocalize it as you’re getting to know the person you want to spend your life with. Don’t blindside them.
Jill and Tony also have other tips:
- Â If your partner has sacrificed to give you a chance to do something you want to do, then you should return the favor, if asked.
- Be grateful your partner wants to pursue this change or adventure with you, instead of leaving you behind.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about your dreams and aspirations. Often, you will find support and an accountability partner in the process.
Has your loved one ever discussed a wish to make a life-altering change with you? Tell us about it in the comments section.
Thanks for listening.
Our marriage has been predicated by deliberate changes. First Denis went to graduate school—next he commuted from Atlanta to Tampa for work while I stayed in the house and worked in Atlanta—then he left his nine-to-five to do contract work—and he has changed jobs often. Next comes me who left my nine-to five to pursue an undergraduate degree and master’s degree. I guess I should also mention our stints of living aboard boats, first for a year in Florida and the Bahamas and then for 2 1/2 years on the West Coast in Canada, Mexico, and the US. Money could be a stressful issue that at times loomed large, but we adjusted and made changes to make it work. We compromised to accommodate each other because we both believed in self actualization. Many with children do not have the flexibility we often enjoyed. It’s certainly not possible for every couple nor would all prefer it. When we went off on our boats, there was censure from family and even friends. Also our extensive travel has garnered disparagement. I believe it’s ironic because we don’t criticize people for staying home and not making changes. Well, not to their faces anyway. Hahahaha.
Thank for commenting. You two actually inspired this episode because we admire all the deliberate changes you’ve made.