Season 2/ Episode 33: When You’re Not on the Same Page
In All Seriousness
Talk to Each Other
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed the numerous times they haven’t been on the same page.
Fortunately, that’s not an issue for them.
Tony agreed with Jill’s advice to understand that it’s not important whether you agree or disagree on things, but communication is essential in both scenarios.
She also said that if you cannot see eye-to-eye on issues that are deal breakers, then you must end the relationship. Yes, it will be hard if you love the person, but do not stay in a relationship thinking that you can change a person’s mind on topics most important to you.
Tell us about your relationship. What have you done when you weren’t on the same page with your partner?
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Because couples cannot be on the same page regarding every issue, the key is to want happiness and fulfillment for yourself and your partner. That means compromise, which might mean trying new things, entertaining new ways of living, or giving your partner your blessing to explore options on their own. As Jill says, if couples can’t work these things out or if differences are too deep for compromise, it’s best to cut and run. The initial pain isn’t worth a lifetime of regret and resentment.
I have to say that some of the things Denis has talked me into have the best decisions of our life. I thought that our first live-aboard year on a boat came at the wrong time. Although I was in favor or doing it eventually, I was working on a degree and thought I should finish it first. However, I agreed to it, and it was great. I was able to complete 12 credit hours of independent study that enhanced my degree with perspectives I wouldn’t have gotten otherwise. There are more examples of this, and I think Denis would say the same about some of my ideas that we’ve acted on. It’s good to keep an open mind. It can make life more interesting.
Thanks for your comment, Mary. We agree with all that you said. Thanks for sharing your own experience on this topic. Tony and I are both water people, so we would love to try living aboard a boat, too.