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Episode 52: New Year, New Relationship Goals

Producer Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Prioritize Your Relationship

We did it! We did a year’s worth of podcasts. Thank you for listening.

The start of a new year often brings reflections about the past and goals for the future. In this week’s episode, we discussed setting goals for relationships.

Tony told listeners–once again–to run if they see something early on in their relationship that rubs them the wrong way.

Meanwhile, Jill said that if you’re looking to start a new relationship in 2020, leave your house. Your mate is out there somewhere.

For those who are already in a relationship, she urged you to look for ways to grow together.

Both Jill and Tony have more advice:

  • Make your goals actions that you can control.
  • Remember that we can’t control what others do or think.
  • When your goal is met, set a new one to become your best self

What relationship goals do you have for 2020? Leave your responses in the comments section.

Also, we still want you to submit topics for us to discuss. You can do so by either sending us an audio file or by simply putting it in the comments section.

Thanks again for your support.

Episode 50: Are you a Perfectionist or Just High Maintenance?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Embrace Whatever you Are

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony said that they are both perfectionists, but their conclusion about whether they are high maintenance relates to others’ perception of them.

Jill advised listeners to just be whoever and whatever they are because they are not going to change others’ perception of them.

Meanwhile, Tony advised listeners that if they find others call them high maintenance or any other label with a negative connotation, they should find out why. Perhaps their perception comes out of not knowing the person at all.

Jill and Tony have other tips:

  • Do not be quick to judge or label others
  • Look within to determine what makes you a good person. Strengthen those, of course, but also pick at least one inner trait to improve
  • Love yourself. Loving someone else will be difficult if you don’t

How have you been labeled? Did the labels fit? If not, what did you do about it? Leave your answers in the comments section.

Also, leave an audio or written topic for us to discuss in our “I’m Trying to Help You” segment.

Episode 49: To Agree or Disagree: Ideal for Birthdays, Other Special Occasions?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Acts of Kindness in Relationships

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed whether you should avoid debates or full-blown arguments on your partner’s birthday, or any other special occasions.

Tony told listeners that if their partner feels compelled to be nicer to them on a birthday or holiday, then they should consider how their partner treats them overall.

Meanwhile, Jill advised listeners to accept that their partner may not be thankful for the extra nice treatment.

Both Jill and Tony have advice:

  • If you are into birthdays and your partner isn’t, consider what would make them feel appreciated that date
  • Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what makes you happy
  • Respect and love each other daily

What do you do for your partner on birthdays and other special occasions? Leave your responses in the comments section.

Also tell us–preferably with an audio file–what relationship topic you’d like for us to offer input or advice on to help you or someone you know.

Episode 48: Soulmates: Just One per Person?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Destined to Meet and Connect

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed whether people have more than one soulmate in a lifetime. The definition of soulmate can vary, they said, but they believe you can have more than one.

Tony told listeners to avoid forcing someone to be their soulmate.

Meanwhile, Jill told listeners to assess how much they are connected to another person to determine whether they are a soulmate.

Both agree on the following advice:

  • Do not be quick to label a person as a soulmate, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. Give the relationship time.
  • If the other person does not define you as a soulmate, understand that everyone has different interpretations of what a soulmate is. They may love you just as much as you love them, but they may defy labels.
  • If you lose the person you viewed as a soulmate, take the time to mourn that loss. Be open to love again.

How many soulmates do you think people get in a lifetime? Leave your answers in the comments section.

Also, please let us know what relationship-related question you’d like us to answer. We prefer audio files, no more than 90 seconds please, but we’ll accept written questions as well.

Episode 46: Dating Friends: A Good Idea?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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Friends and Lovers

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed the pros and cons of dating someone who was just a friend first.

Tony told listeners to take their time to figure out who your love interest truly is. Figure out what or if they are hiding anything.

Meanwhile Jill encouraged listeners to be honest with themselves and their friends. If you find yourself falling for your friend, let them know.

They both have more advice:

  • Assess whether you just love your friend or whether you’re in love. There’s a difference
  • Understand that your friendship will change–for the better or worse–once you become a couple. Rarely can one go back to the way it was, but sometimes you were meant to be together, so don’t let that stop you from trying
  • Listen to your heart

Have you ever dated someone who was just a friend? Did it work out for you? Leave your answers in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe, so that you don’t miss any episodes.

Episode 45: Are Training and Teaching the Same Thing in Relationships?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Words Matter

In this week’s episode, Tony was offended by Jill saying that she has trained him to change a few of his habits. He agreed, however, that partners can teach each other. In short, training and teaching were interchangeable for Jill, but not for Tony.

He told listeners that if you are in a relationship with someone who says you have been trained by them, respond to them in a calm manner that the word “trained” is incorrect.

Meanwhile, Jill encouraged listeners to help each other grow. If you use certain words that offend your partner, use other words.

Together, they have more advice:

  • Let your partner know what upsets you, but make sure you do it in a loving way
  • Listen to each other
  • Recognize that compromises are intended to be win-win outcomes

What do you think about conditioning your partner to change behaviors that suit you better? Leave your answers in the comments section. Let us know what topics you’d like to hear us tackle.

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