Episode 49: To Agree or Disagree: Ideal for Birthdays, Other Special Occasions?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Acts of Kindness in Relationships

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed whether you should avoid debates or full-blown arguments on your partner’s birthday, or any other special occasions.

Tony told listeners that if their partner feels compelled to be nicer to them on a birthday or holiday, then they should consider how their partner treats them overall.

Meanwhile, Jill advised listeners to accept that their partner may not be thankful for the extra nice treatment.

Both Jill and Tony have advice:

  • If you are into birthdays and your partner isn’t, consider what would make them feel appreciated that date
  • Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what makes you happy
  • Respect and love each other daily

What do you do for your partner on birthdays and other special occasions? Leave your responses in the comments section.

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Episode 47: Is it Realistic to Forgive and Forget?

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Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Art: Nick Zinkie
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Is a Grudge the Same as Not Forgetting?

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed whether forgiving and truly forgetting is achievable.

Tony encouraged listeners to forgive and forget, but he also said that there are some situations that you should remember, so that you don’t get burned the next time.

Meanwhile, Jill told listeners who don’t have a good memory to work on improving it because it will help with future relationships.

They both have the following advice for all listeners:

  • Do not hold grudges. They hurt you.
  • Understand that forgiveness is intended to help you.
  • If you find that you can neither forgive nor forget what someone has done to you, find the courage to leave the relationship because the situation will become a wall between the two of you.

Have you ever been able to forgive and forget? If so, how did you do it? Leave your answers in the comments section.

Also, leave a question that you’d like to see us address. We prefer that you send us an audio file, limited to 90 seconds, of your asking the question, but we will also accept written questions. We will select ones to share with our entire audience starting in Season 2, which begins in January 2020.

Episode 44: What if There Were two of You?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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All Things in Moderation

In this week’s episode, we discussed what Tony would do if there were two of Jill.

He loves Jill, of course, but he made it clear that he could handle only one of her.

As a tip, he told listeners to fully evaluate their mate, as well as the people their partner hangs with.

Meanwhile, Jill advised listeners to realize that the person they like or love is often part of a package deal, meaning they come with others.

Once again this week, the two worked on suggestions together:

  • Cherish what you love about your partner
  • Do not try to change personalities; talk about why behaviors need to change, but remember why you fell in love in the first place
  • Accept the things you cannot change

What would you do if there two of your partner? Leave your answers in the comments section.

Episode 43: Don’t Dwell on Labels

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
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Be who you Are

In this week’s episode, Jill lovingly called Tony a nerd or a geek.

He denied it.

Jill told listeners that his denials do not matter because few of us can change someone’s perception of us.

Meanwhile, Tony also advised listeners to embrace who they are.

This week, the two worked on their tips together:

  • Determine what you want to be known for and act accordingly
  • Understand that you can’t change whether people will label you or not, but you can control how much attention you give it
  • Don’t focus on things and views you cannot control

What advice would you offer? Leave your answers in the comments section.

Episode 42: Who do you Need in Your Life?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
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Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
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Be Selective About People you Deem Friends

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony talked about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who are in your corner.

Tony told listeners to take a close look at the people who are in your life. If someone brings nothings but drama, pain, or heartache, then you need to distance yourself or remove that person from your life.

He has more advice:

  • Remember that the company you keep can affect your quality of life
  • Consider whether someone has had a positive effect on you. Those are the ones to keep in your life.
  • Do not forget to love yourself, too.

Jill told listeners, paraphrasing Maya Angelou, to believe people when they show you who they are.

She urges listeners to do the following:

  • If someone you consider a friend betrays you or is guilty of some other wrongdoing against you, determine whether it was just one bad decision on their part or something ongoing. Try to talk it out if you think they are a true friend. No one is perfect, after all.
  • If you find you need to distance yourself from someone, consider walking away without a fight. Chances are arguing about it is only going to make things worse.
  • Do not hold grudges. It eats away at you, not the other person.

Who are your friends? What criteria do you use to determine that they are not your enemies? Leave your answers in the comments section.

In the meantime, join us at our podcast-related meetup on Saturday, Oct. 26. We’ve planned some fun activities and giveaways.

Episode 41: You Might be Wrong

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
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Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
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The Need to Feel Right

This topic of this week’s episode was a special one because it was, in part, the idea of another podcaster, David Payne. David hosts the wildly popular and highly-ranked podcast, Somebody Somewhere, which investigates and uncover clues in unsolved, high-profile cases. Make sure you check it the binge-worthy show because it is amazing what he and executive producer, Jody Gottlieb, consistently discover and reveal in each episode.

Recently, David and Jill, who have known each other since their CNN.com days, spoke about the need to feel right, which led to Jill interviewing a neuroscientist, Dr. Dean Burnett, about whether the brain is wired for that. David used an excerpt of that interview in a recent episode, and so did Jill and Tony in this week’s podcast. In fact, Tony and Jill admitted to times they were wrong in their relationship with each other.

Tony also told listeners to look deeper within themselves, within their life, at decisions they’ve made.

His other tips include the following:

  • Remember that no one is right all the time.
  • Even if you think you’re right, take the time to truly listen to your partner’s viewpoint
  • Keep your mind and heart open. That’s the best way to open your ears to listen.

Jill also offered advice by telling listeners to judge others less since everyone has flaws.

She also has the following suggestions:

  • Be honest with yourself about why you feel the need to be right
  • Listen. Listen. Listen
  • Let unimportant arguments go

How do you handle being right or wrong in your relationship? In life? Leave your answers in the comment section. Don’t forget to join us at our first podcast-related meetup on Oct. 26.