In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed whether forgiving and truly forgetting is achievable.
Tony encouraged listeners to forgive and forget, but he also said that there are some situations that you should remember, so that you don’t get burned the next time.
Meanwhile, Jill told listeners who don’t have a good memory to work on improving it because it will help with future relationships.
They both have the following advice for all listeners:
Do not hold grudges. They hurt you.
Understand that forgiveness is intended to help you.
If you find that you can neither forgive nor forget what someone has done to you, find the courage to leave the relationship because the situation will become a wall between the two of you.
Have you ever been able to forgive and forget? If so, how did you do it? Leave your answers in the comments section.
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In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony talked about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who are in your corner.
Tony told listeners to take a close look at the people who are in your life. If someone brings nothings but drama, pain, or heartache, then you need to distance yourself or remove that person from your life.
He has more advice:
Remember that the company you keep can affect your quality of life
Consider whether someone has had a positive effect on you. Those are the ones to keep in your life.
Do not forget to love yourself, too.
Jill told listeners, paraphrasing Maya Angelou, to believe people when they show you who they are.
She urges listeners to do the following:
If someone you consider a friend betrays you or is guilty of some other wrongdoing against you, determine whether it was just one bad decision on their part or something ongoing. Try to talk it out if you think they are a true friend. No one is perfect, after all.
If you find you need to distance yourself from someone, consider walking away without a fight. Chances are arguing about it is only going to make things worse.
Do not hold grudges. It eats away at you, not the other person.
Who are your friends? What criteria do you use to determine that they are not your enemies? Leave your answers in the comments section.
In the meantime, join us at our podcast-related meetup on Saturday, Oct. 26. We’ve planned some fun activities and giveaways.
This topic of this week’s episode was a special one because it was, in part, the idea of another podcaster, David Payne. David hosts the wildly popular and highly-ranked podcast, Somebody Somewhere, which investigates and uncover clues in unsolved, high-profile cases. Make sure you check it the binge-worthy show because it is amazing what he and executive producer, Jody Gottlieb, consistently discover and reveal in each episode.
Recently, David and Jill, who have known each other since their CNN.com days, spoke about the need to feel right, which led to Jill interviewing a neuroscientist, Dr. Dean Burnett, about whether the brain is wired for that. David used an excerpt of that interview in a recent episode, and so did Jill and Tony in this week’s podcast. In fact, Tony and Jill admitted to times they were wrong in their relationship with each other.
Tony also told listeners to look deeper within themselves, within their life, at decisions they’ve made.
His other tips include the following:
Remember that no one is right all the time.
Even if you think you’re right, take the time to truly listen to your partner’s viewpoint
Keep your mind and heart open. That’s the best way to open your ears to listen.
Jill also offered advice by telling listeners to judge others less since everyone has flaws.
She also has the following suggestions:
Be honest with yourself about why you feel the need to be right