Episode 41: You Might be Wrong

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The Need to Feel Right

This topic of this week’s episode was a special one because it was, in part, the idea of another podcaster, David Payne. David hosts the wildly popular and highly-ranked podcast, Somebody Somewhere, which investigates and uncover clues in unsolved, high-profile cases. Make sure you check it the binge-worthy show because it is amazing what he and executive producer, Jody Gottlieb, consistently discover and reveal in each episode.

Recently, David and Jill, who have known each other since their CNN.com days, spoke about the need to feel right, which led to Jill interviewing a neuroscientist, Dr. Dean Burnett, about whether the brain is wired for that. David used an excerpt of that interview in a recent episode, and so did Jill and Tony in this week’s podcast. In fact, Tony and Jill admitted to times they were wrong in their relationship with each other.

Tony also told listeners to look deeper within themselves, within their life, at decisions they’ve made.

His other tips include the following:

  • Remember that no one is right all the time.
  • Even if you think you’re right, take the time to truly listen to your partner’s viewpoint
  • Keep your mind and heart open. That’s the best way to open your ears to listen.

Jill also offered advice by telling listeners to judge others less since everyone has flaws.

She also has the following suggestions:

  • Be honest with yourself about why you feel the need to be right
  • Listen. Listen. Listen
  • Let unimportant arguments go

How do you handle being right or wrong in your relationship? In life? Leave your answers in the comment section. Don’t forget to join us at our first podcast-related meetup on Oct. 26.

Episode 40: Who is the Follower in Your Relationship?

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Let’s Decide Together

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed how they determine tasks in their household.

He told listeners to ask questions about who does what early on in the relationship, so that if you opt to live together later on, there will likely be fewer surprises.

He has other suggestions, too:

  • Compromise, if necessary
  • Keep each other accountable about what each agreed to do
  • Hold your anger if one person doesn’t keep the commitment; talk it out as soon as possible

Jill told listeners to talk out issues with role assignments, but if nothing ever changes, and there appear to be bigger issues, you may consider leaving that relationship behind.

She has three other tips:

  • Keep communication lines open
  • Switch leader-follower roles from time to time
  • Work together for the best outcomes

How do you determine who does what in your relationship? Let us know in the comments section. Hope to see you at our meetup on Oct. 26!

Episode 39: When Pet Peeves Enter Your Relationship

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Pet Peeves: Everybody Has Them

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed their pet peeves, from the proper installation of toilet paper rolls to making the bed the right way.

So, what does you do if your partner is guilty of all your pet peeves?

Tony told listeners to run. Let that sink in for a moment.

He, of course, has more advice:

  • Communication is always the best policy when your loved one does something that irritates you
  • Remember to be calm when you tell them. Few people respond well when you yell or scream at them.
  • I was only half joking about running. If you talk to your partner about your pet peeves, and they purposely still do them, then you may need to remove yourself from the relationship.

Jill also urged listeners talk it out with their partner.

As always, she has other tips:

  • Recognize if you need to be direct instead of giving hints about your pet peeves
  • Realize that your partner has pet peeves, too, and try to alter your behavior accordingly
  • Don’t let your pet peeves turn you into a nag

What are your pet peeves? How do you handle letting your partner know if they are guilty of doing any of them?

Leave your responses in the comments section.

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Episode 38: When Your Relationship Changes Because you Did

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Expect to Evolve, Hope to Grow Together

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed how much they’ve changed since they first met. In their case, they believe their change, especially when they changed together, helped them reach an all-time high in their relationship. In essence, they believed their changes–individual ones and those they did as a couple–were mostly positive.

Jill brought up the times her changes resulted in a significant weight gain. She thanked Tony for not loving her any less.

Jill told listeners to avoid being a dream killer.

As always, she has other tips:

  • Expect change. Few people stay the same forever.
  • Embrace growth. Change is often a sign of moving forward.
  • Avoid staying in the past. Remember that you can’t change what has already happened, but you can grow and progress in the days ahead.

Tony advised listeners, when meeting someone, to really take the time to know the person.

He suggested they also do the following:

  • Be honest with yourself and with each other about changes.
  • Consider that change can either enhance or destroy a relationship, but don’t make snap judgments about it.
  • Strive for open communication, no matter the changes.

In what ways have you changed during your relationship with your significant other? How did your partner respond? Have you followed any of Jill and Tony’s suggestions? Which ones? Leave your responses in the comments section at the bottom of this page.

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Episode 37: The Myth About Introverts

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You May Be an Introvert

In this week’s episode, Jill revealed that she is actually an introvert when it comes to what energy makes her thrive; whereas Tony said he is either a hybrid of an introvert and an extrovert, or maybe he’s an extrovert.

You may not believe their conclusions, but it’s true, even if they only realized that about themselves recently.

In the podcast, Tony encouraged people to connect with others, regardless of whether they are an introvert or extrovert, in order to have a fulfilling life. He said you only need a few close friends.

He also has these tips:

  • Recognize that it doesn’t matter whether you are introverted or extroverted, as long as it doesn’t negatively affect your professional and personal life.
  • Avoid being a hermit. Do the things you enjoy outside of your home, even occasionally.
  • If you are an extrovert, do not try to outshine others around you, especially if you are in a relationship with an introvert.

Meanwhile, Jill told listeners to be who they really are, but try to step up if they have to in order to achieve their goals.

Her other suggestions are for introverts, like her:

  • Face your fears. For example, if it terrifies you to deliver a presentation or a speech, learn how to get out of your comfort zone by joining Toastmasters or finding help in another form.
  • Do not try to change your personality, even if someone else would prefer if you did. Instead, work on improving behaviors that you believe may be holding you back from meaningful roles and relationships.
  • Make time for self-care. If you find mandatory social gatherings draining, take the time to do the things that rejuvenate and relax after the event is over.

Do you believe Jill and Tony’s conclusions about themselves? How do you navigate social gatherings if you’re in a relationship with an introvert, but you are an extrovert, or vice-versa? Leave your responses in the comments section.

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Episode 18: Do People Think You’re Fake? Tips

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Be Who You Are

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony actually agreed that you should be who you are, instead of being someone you’re not, a fake.

Tony had more to add:

  • If you find yourself fighting often with your partner, try talking to each other. Tell them what you love about them, but also voice your concerns. Consider talking to a relationship expert together. If all fails, be courageous and leave the relationship.
  • If you are a single person, look for someone who is your friend and your lover.
  • Do not settle for anyone. Take your time to find the right match for you.

Jill also has some advice:

  • Do not dwell on what others say about you or your relationships. This is your life, your business, not theirs.
  • In the words of Maya Angelou, “If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
  • Remember that no one is perfect, including you. Recognize what you can tolerate in others, and what your deal breakers are. Give them a chance to do the same with your flaws.

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Episode 17: Do you Have a Right to Complain if you Volunteered to do Something?

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Do’s and Don’ts for Volunteers

During this week’s podcast, Jill advised listeners to only volunteer to do what they truly enjoy tackling. If the project turns out to be much more labor than expected, push through and maybe tell the person all that you did to complete the project at a later date.

Tony also urged listeners to keep volunteering if they like doing it. He said that if you find the need to complain, it’s okay to do it every now and then, but complain to yourself.

Here are more do’s and don’ts from Tony:

  • If you have never volunteered before, try it. You may find it rewarding.
  • Don’t take on too much. Be sure to always make time to do the things you enjoy doing for yourself.
  • Service with a smile is always best. Yes, that project may be more work than you anticipated, but complain to yourself, not them.

Jill also has more advice:

  • Don’t volunteer for the sake of volunteering. Do it because you truly want to help others.
  • Learn to say no without remorse. When people know your abilities, they may often ask you to utilize them for free. If you find yourself stretched too thin or are more aware of how much they are asking you to do than they realize, talk it out. Maybe even ask for help. If they still consider it a one-person job, just say “no.” They will always find someone else to do it.
  • If volunteering feels like more work than your actual job, then recognize that you are either doing too much or maybe you need to volunteer elsewhere.

Do you do volunteer work? How much is too much? Should you complain? Leave your responses in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe.

Episode 15: Are Vacations Overrated?

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Take Time to Unplug

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony agreed! Their tips even echoed each other. For example, Tony urged listeners to take as many vacations as they can afford. “Unplug,” he said.

Jill added that if you or your partner are workaholics, then you definitely need to listen to the one who’s not and take time to relax your mind and body. “Your health needs it,” she said.

Tony offered more tips:

  • Do not take any work calls or respond to emails, while you are on vacation.
  • Consider going to state or national parks for an affordable destination.
  • Allow the less expensive vacation find you. There are often deals for those who wait to book at the last minute.

Jill has more advice for workaholics:

  • Consider that vacation time with your loved ones is a chance for you to bond and reconnect. You need this to maintain a healthy relationship.
  • If you fear losing your job while you’re gone on vacation, then accept that you need to find another place to work. That type of workplace culture is not healthy for you. Look for that new job once you return from vacation.
  • If you end up going on a staycation, make the most of it by doing something each day that makes you feel like you’re on vacation. In fact, it doesn’t hurt to do that each day, regardless of whether you are officially on vacation or not.

Have you tried any of these tips? How often do you go on vacation? Leave your answers in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe.

Episode 14: Please Just let me Watch my Show

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Some other heading

During our podcast, Jill said that if you have different televisions in your home, then watch your favorite shows separately, if your partner hates what you watch.

She has other tips to make your TV viewing experience an enjoyable one:

  • If you don’t watch TV together, schedule time for just the two of you to connect. That way, you make up for that lost time.
  • Be open to watching your partner’s shows, even if you don’t like it. This shows your partner what to do when the roles are reversed.
  • Don’t criticize your partner’s favorite shows or activities. Accept that the two of you can have completely different tastes, but still be compatible in the categories that matter the most.

During our podcast, Tony

Episode 13: When No is Your Default Setting

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Phase II: Change Bad Habits

During our podcast, Tony advised you to have a default setting of “no” because it’s a safe bet. Do, however, think about it and be open to changing your mind.

He had other tips, too:

  • If you say “no,” use the time it gives you to determine if you can indeed do or buy what your partner is proposing.
  • Be aware that if you always say “no,” your partner may end up resenting you for it.
  • Learn to be balanced with your responses. Saying “yes” all the time can be a problem, too.

During our podcast, Jill said that you should give thought to each question your partner poses, instead of having an automatic response like a reflex.

She also has more advice:

  • If your partner says “no” often, ask for the reasons why, but only if you are ready for the answer. Do not ask questions that you in which you really don’t want to know the answers.
  • Strive to compromise in situations in which you disagree. That way, neither of you resents the other.
  • Empower each other to make decisions on the little things without permission from the other.

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