In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony actually agreed that you should be who you are, instead of being someone you’re not, a fake.
Tony had more to add:
If you find yourself fighting often with your partner, try talking to each other. Tell them what you love about them, but also voice your concerns. Consider talking to a relationship expert together. If all fails, be courageous and leave the relationship.
If you are a single person, look for someone who is your friend and your lover.
Do not settle for anyone. Take your time to find the right match for you.
Jill also has some advice:
Do not dwell on what others say about you or your relationships. This is your life, your business, not theirs.
In the words of Maya Angelou, “If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
Remember that no one is perfect, including you. Recognize what you can tolerate in others, and what your deal breakers are. Give them a chance to do the same with your flaws.
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During this week’s podcast, Jill advised listeners to only volunteer to do what they truly enjoy tackling. If the project turns out to be much more labor than expected, push through and maybe tell the person all that you did to complete the project at a later date.
Tony also urged listeners to keep volunteering if they like doing it. He said that if you find the need to complain, it’s okay to do it every now and then, but complain to yourself.
Here are more do’s and don’ts from Tony:
If you have never volunteered before, try it. You may find it rewarding.
Don’t take on too much. Be sure to always make time to do the things you enjoy doing for yourself.
Service with a smile is always best. Yes, that project may be more work than you anticipated, but complain to yourself, not them.
Jill also has more advice:
Don’t volunteer for the sake of volunteering. Do it because you truly want to help others.
Learn to say no without remorse. When people know your abilities, they may often ask you to utilize them for free. If you find yourself stretched too thin or are more aware of how much they are asking you to do than they realize, talk it out. Maybe even ask for help. If they still consider it a one-person job, just say “no.” They will always find someone else to do it.
If volunteering feels like more work than your actual job, then recognize that you are either doing too much or maybe you need to volunteer elsewhere.
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In this week’s episode, it took awhile, but Tony finally came around to Jill’s stance. He told the audience to listen to their partner, whereas Jill suggested that as well, but also advised listeners to follow it up with action.
Tony had more tips, of course:
Be open to compromise. Talk it out.
If you are unable to easily reach a compromise, consider giving in. A great relationship isn’t worth a small issue that escalates into a full-fledged argument.
If you find that you and partner argue a lot anyway, then you may need the help of a therapist. There’s no shame in seeking help when you need it.
Jill also has more advice:
Know the difference between hearing your partner and active listening. The latter often prevents arguments.
Don’t make everything a battle. If the topic is small to you, let your partner have his/her way.
Respect creativity. Often, it is an outlet to de-stress.
Are you and your partner both creative? How do you navigate? Leave your responses in the comments section. Please remember to subscribe.
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony agreed! Their tips even echoed each other. For example, Tony urged listeners to take as many vacations as they can afford. “Unplug,” he said.
Jill added that if you or your partner are workaholics, then you definitely need to listen to the one who’s not and take time to relax your mind and body. “Your health needs it,” she said.
Tony offered more tips:
Do not take any work calls or respond to emails, while you are on vacation.
Consider going to state or national parks for an affordable destination.
Allow the less expensive vacation find you. There are often deals for those who wait to book at the last minute.
Jill has more advice for workaholics:
Consider that vacation time with your loved ones is a chance for you to bond and reconnect. You need this to maintain a healthy relationship.
If you fear losing your job while you’re gone on vacation, then accept that you need to find another place to work. That type of workplace culture is not healthy for you. Look for that new job once you return from vacation.
If you end up going on a staycation, make the most of it by doing something each day that makes you feel like you’re on vacation. In fact, it doesn’t hurt to do that each day, regardless of whether you are officially on vacation or not.
Have you tried any of these tips? How often do you go on vacation? Leave your answers in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe.
During our podcast, Tony advised you to cherish when your partner says she/better knows than you know yourself because they are often just trying to encourage you.
Per usual, he has other tips for you:
Try to remember that your partner might be able to see something in you, that you can’t see. It could be something positive, or it might be something negative. Try not to become angry, if they have something negative to point out about you.
If you have to let your partner know about something that they say or do that is negative, be sure to point out something positive about them first. It will go a long way in ensuring that you have a happy and loving relationship.
Be sure you tell your partner the things you love about them, as often as possible. Both women and men love to hear that they are loved and appreciated.
Meanwhile, during the podcast, Jill said you should try to see your partner’s talents and then support those abilities. Uplift each other because you’re better together.
She also has more advice:
Just as you should strive to see each other, also know, as Maya Angelou once said, that when a person shows who he/she really is, believe him/her.
Be willing to help your partner and also be helped.
Express gratitude daily that you are glad your partner is in your life.
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In our podcast, Jill advised you to respect your partner’s emotions, especially when they are angry.
She also has more tips:
Express what you’re feeling with love. If you yell and scream to show your anger, your partner may not truly hear you.
Be open to your partner’s response, if he or she offers a reason for their actions that got you upset in the first place. Maybe it’s all a misunderstanding about intention.
Don’t make everything a battle. Ask yourself if the issue is something you can tolerate or is it really worth an argument.
During our podcast, Tony also finally–finally–admitted that laughter probably isn’t the best immediate response to your partner’s anger. In fact, he now realizes that laughing can make your partner get even more upset with you.
He has three more tips to avoid that:
Be empathetic and sympathetic when your partner is upset with you.
Give your partner time to see the humor in the situation. When that happens, laughter is a good thing.
Continue to love each other. Understand that anger often isn’t worth the negative energy that comes with it.
Are you willing to try our advice? What has worked for you in the past? Post your answers in the comments section.
In this week’s podcast, Tony and Jill kept using words that can be detrimental to a relationship like “mine” and “yours.” Jill said that you can still use those words and keep the peace as long as you also define what “ours” means to you and your partner.
Her other advice expands upon that idea:
Recognize and respect all three categories of mine, yours, and ours. Yes, you may be a couple, but you’re still individuals, too, possibly with different interests and goals.
Cheer each other on with genuine enthusiasm
Realize that a win for your partner is a win for you, too
In keeping with the swag theme, Tony said that if people want to be kind to you, respond with “thank you” and enjoy whatever they give you.
He has more suggestions along those lines:
Understand that it’s fine to accept swag or maybe even a gift, as long as the giver doesn’t want something inappropriate from you in return
Consider declining swag or a gift if it makes your partner uncomfortable
If you do accept swag or a gift, make sure you share it with your partner. That way, everybody is happy.
What is your opinion about accepting swag you didn’t earn? Who do you think won this podcast debate? Leave us your thoughts in the comments section.