Episode 46: Dating Friends: A Good Idea?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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Friends and Lovers

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony discussed the pros and cons of dating someone who was just a friend first.

Tony told listeners to take their time to figure out who your love interest truly is. Figure out what or if they are hiding anything.

Meanwhile Jill encouraged listeners to be honest with themselves and their friends. If you find yourself falling for your friend, let them know.

They both have more advice:

  • Assess whether you just love your friend or whether you’re in love. There’s a difference
  • Understand that your friendship will change–for the better or worse–once you become a couple. Rarely can one go back to the way it was, but sometimes you were meant to be together, so don’t let that stop you from trying
  • Listen to your heart

Have you ever dated someone who was just a friend? Did it work out for you? Leave your answers in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe, so that you don’t miss any episodes.

Episode 42: Who do you Need in Your Life?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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Be Selective About People you Deem Friends

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony talked about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who are in your corner.

Tony told listeners to take a close look at the people who are in your life. If someone brings nothings but drama, pain, or heartache, then you need to distance yourself or remove that person from your life.

He has more advice:

  • Remember that the company you keep can affect your quality of life
  • Consider whether someone has had a positive effect on you. Those are the ones to keep in your life.
  • Do not forget to love yourself, too.

Jill told listeners, paraphrasing Maya Angelou, to believe people when they show you who they are.

She urges listeners to do the following:

  • If someone you consider a friend betrays you or is guilty of some other wrongdoing against you, determine whether it was just one bad decision on their part or something ongoing. Try to talk it out if you think they are a true friend. No one is perfect, after all.
  • If you find you need to distance yourself from someone, consider walking away without a fight. Chances are arguing about it is only going to make things worse.
  • Do not hold grudges. It eats away at you, not the other person.

Who are your friends? What criteria do you use to determine that they are not your enemies? Leave your answers in the comments section.

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Episode 24: Are Your Friends Causing Problems in Your Relationship?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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Awkward Friend Zones

In this week’s podcast, Tony and Jill agreed that you should be able to have a relationship with a person who is of the sex that you’re attracted to. Of course, sometimes issues arise if someone feels that their relationship is threatened.

Jill advised listeners to communicate with each other if one felt uncomfortable with a friendship the other one has.

She has other tips:

  • Be aware of who your friends really are.
  • Listen to and respect your partner’s concern if he or she has a problem with your friend. You may be too close to the situation to truly see what is happening.
  • Don’t be afraid to drop a friend if you find that he or she is toxic to you or your relationship.

Tony advised people to stay aware of people who may have ulterior motives.

He has more thoughts on the topic:

  • It can be easier to have this kind of friendship if you grew up with the person in question, and you never developed any romantic feelings for each other.
  • If you develop a friendship with a person that you met at your job, be honest with your partner about it. Otherwise, this scenario often ends badly for both people.
  • Be honest with your partner and your friend from the start.

Have you tried any of these tips? What worked for you? Leave your answers in the comments section.