In this episode, Tony and Jill actually agreed that age differences should not matter, as long as one isn’t in a position of power over the other. In fact, Tony urged listeners to not pursue their professor.
He had other thoughts as well on the topic:
An age difference in a relationship shouldn’t matter as long as the two of you are equally yoked and love each other.
If one person is 18, and the other is 45, this is probably a case where age matters. The 18-year-old brain is not developed enough to understand what they are truly getting into. This also applies to teacher and student relationships.
Older women with younger men can be a good thing if they’re both looking for the same thing. But older men with women that are 40 years younger may not be a good thing. In this case, each person is in the relationship for different reasons. They may say they’re in love, but what kind of love is it? Time will tell.
Jill said that if you find you’re compatible with someone, don’t let an age difference stop you from seeing where the relationship will go, unless, of course, one has power over the other.
She had other thoughts, too:
If you find yourself consistently attracted to someone older, but the relationship never works out, don’t be afraid to date someone who is younger or your age. Remember that you cannot expect different results, if you keep doing the same thing.
Stay open to seeing who people really are. Often, all is not what it seems.
Determine why you and your partner want to be in the relationship. Some just want to have fun, while others want a commitment. Make sure the two of you are on the same page.
Do you believe that age is just a number when it comes to relationships? Why or why not? Leave your answers in the comments section.
In this week’s episode, Tony admitted that he often blames Jill for things that aren’t her fault. By the end of the episode, he told listeners to try to change that habit, if they, too, often blame others for everything. He offered other advice:
Consider how blame affects your partner. Adjust accordingly.
Choose your words wisely with everyone, but especially when you feel the need to accuse your partner of something.
If you’re lucky, your partner may understand that you just don’t know how to properly ask a question.
During the episode, Jill conceded that she knows that Tony does not mean any harm when he accuses her of things she had nothing to do with; she’s learned to tolerate it. She has other tips as well:
Remember that words and tone both matter.
Train people to treat you the way you wanted to be treated.
Let your partners know your deal breakers early in your relationship.
What advice do you have? Leave your responses in the comments section.
In this week’s episode, Jill encouraged listeners to be who they are. She told everyone that if they feel moved to cry, then there is no shame in doing so. Tony agreed, but added that everyone, especially men, need to be selective about where they are seen crying.
Tony had more thoughts on the topic for men:
There appears to be a double standard for men and women when it comes to crying, and that’s sad. Maybe one day it will be okay for men to cry whenever they feel the need to do so.
With that said, it is fine if a man cries at a funeral or if he cries because someone hurt him or his feelings.
If you find yourself crying all the time for no apparent reason, you might be depressed. Please seek professional help.
Jill has more to say as well:
Yes, crying can indeed be a sign of depression. Do not be ashamed to talk to a professional about it.
Remember that crying can also indicate that you are a human who can be moved.
If you feel the need to cry at work, excuse yourself and do it privately. Otherwise, that can work against you. Also if work brings you to a breaking point often, you may want to consider finding another job or career.
Do you believe it’s okay if men and women cry? What advice do you have to offer? Please leave your comments and response in the comments section.
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony actually agreed that you should be who you are, instead of being someone you’re not, a fake.
Tony had more to add:
If you find yourself fighting often with your partner, try talking to each other. Tell them what you love about them, but also voice your concerns. Consider talking to a relationship expert together. If all fails, be courageous and leave the relationship.
If you are a single person, look for someone who is your friend and your lover.
Do not settle for anyone. Take your time to find the right match for you.
Jill also has some advice:
Do not dwell on what others say about you or your relationships. This is your life, your business, not theirs.
In the words of Maya Angelou, “If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
Remember that no one is perfect, including you. Recognize what you can tolerate in others, and what your deal breakers are. Give them a chance to do the same with your flaws.
Do you ever get accused of being fake? How have you handled that situation? Leave your comments. We’d love it if you subscribed, too.
During this week’s podcast, Jill advised listeners to only volunteer to do what they truly enjoy tackling. If the project turns out to be much more labor than expected, push through and maybe tell the person all that you did to complete the project at a later date.
Tony also urged listeners to keep volunteering if they like doing it. He said that if you find the need to complain, it’s okay to do it every now and then, but complain to yourself.
Here are more do’s and don’ts from Tony:
If you have never volunteered before, try it. You may find it rewarding.
Don’t take on too much. Be sure to always make time to do the things you enjoy doing for yourself.
Service with a smile is always best. Yes, that project may be more work than you anticipated, but complain to yourself, not them.
Jill also has more advice:
Don’t volunteer for the sake of volunteering. Do it because you truly want to help others.
Learn to say no without remorse. When people know your abilities, they may often ask you to utilize them for free. If you find yourself stretched too thin or are more aware of how much they are asking you to do than they realize, talk it out. Maybe even ask for help. If they still consider it a one-person job, just say “no.” They will always find someone else to do it.
If volunteering feels like more work than your actual job, then recognize that you are either doing too much or maybe you need to volunteer elsewhere.
Do you do volunteer work? How much is too much? Should you complain? Leave your responses in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe.
In this week’s episode, it took awhile, but Tony finally came around to Jill’s stance. He told the audience to listen to their partner, whereas Jill suggested that as well, but also advised listeners to follow it up with action.
Tony had more tips, of course:
Be open to compromise. Talk it out.
If you are unable to easily reach a compromise, consider giving in. A great relationship isn’t worth a small issue that escalates into a full-fledged argument.
If you find that you and partner argue a lot anyway, then you may need the help of a therapist. There’s no shame in seeking help when you need it.
Jill also has more advice:
Know the difference between hearing your partner and active listening. The latter often prevents arguments.
Don’t make everything a battle. If the topic is small to you, let your partner have his/her way.
Respect creativity. Often, it is an outlet to de-stress.
Are you and your partner both creative? How do you navigate? Leave your responses in the comments section. Please remember to subscribe.
In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony agreed! Their tips even echoed each other. For example, Tony urged listeners to take as many vacations as they can afford. “Unplug,” he said.
Jill added that if you or your partner are workaholics, then you definitely need to listen to the one who’s not and take time to relax your mind and body. “Your health needs it,” she said.
Tony offered more tips:
Do not take any work calls or respond to emails, while you are on vacation.
Consider going to state or national parks for an affordable destination.
Allow the less expensive vacation find you. There are often deals for those who wait to book at the last minute.
Jill has more advice for workaholics:
Consider that vacation time with your loved ones is a chance for you to bond and reconnect. You need this to maintain a healthy relationship.
If you fear losing your job while you’re gone on vacation, then accept that you need to find another place to work. That type of workplace culture is not healthy for you. Look for that new job once you return from vacation.
If you end up going on a staycation, make the most of it by doing something each day that makes you feel like you’re on vacation. In fact, it doesn’t hurt to do that each day, regardless of whether you are officially on vacation or not.
Have you tried any of these tips? How often do you go on vacation? Leave your answers in the comments section. Don’t forget to subscribe.