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Episode 42: Who do you Need in Your Life?

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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In All Seriousness

Be Selective About People you Deem Friends

In this week’s episode, Jill and Tony talked about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who are in your corner.

Tony told listeners to take a close look at the people who are in your life. If someone brings nothings but drama, pain, or heartache, then you need to distance yourself or remove that person from your life.

He has more advice:

  • Remember that the company you keep can affect your quality of life
  • Consider whether someone has had a positive effect on you. Those are the ones to keep in your life.
  • Do not forget to love yourself, too.

Jill told listeners, paraphrasing Maya Angelou, to believe people when they show you who they are.

She urges listeners to do the following:

  • If someone you consider a friend betrays you or is guilty of some other wrongdoing against you, determine whether it was just one bad decision on their part or something ongoing. Try to talk it out if you think they are a true friend. No one is perfect, after all.
  • If you find you need to distance yourself from someone, consider walking away without a fight. Chances are arguing about it is only going to make things worse.
  • Do not hold grudges. It eats away at you, not the other person.

Who are your friends? What criteria do you use to determine that they are not your enemies? Leave your answers in the comments section.

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2 comments on “Episode 42: Who do you Need in Your Life?

  1. Mary E Vogel says:

    Oh “frienenemies.” I’ve had a few, one for twenty-five years. She wouldn’t have lasted that long with just me, but she was part of a couple, and Denis really liked her husband. Things built up, and finally I blew up. However the thing is–the flare up was actually my fault. I grew to mistrust her so much, I perceived something she did as different from what happened. At that point I realized that knowing her was turning me in to someone I did not want to be. She asked if we could repair the relationship, but I declined because I had tried to tell her things before the big incident and nothing changed. I think undermining me–and others–was just who she was. I told her exactly why I couldn’t trust her, and instead of addressing my complaints, she tried to contact Denis, twice actually. He ignored her. I wish I had figured it out sooner, but at least I finally caught on. Now when I perceive a frienenemy, I keep my distance.

    1. @jillccwrites2 says:

      Love this comment. It seems that frenemies are not the best listeners or maybe they hear clearly and just don’t care. Lol! Either way, I liked the way you handled the situation. I took notes, just in case I ever run into a frenemy or two. Thanks for commenting.

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