Season 3/ Episode 16: How Much Should You Change to Make Someone Happy?
In All Seriousness
Compromises Make Relationships Work
In this week’s podcast episode, Jill and Tony discuss compromises and how much someone should change to appease a loved one.
You can’t please everybody nor should you try. Yet, Jill and Tony believe compromises make relationships work.
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How much do or have you changed to make your relationship work?
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Yes! “In all seriousness compromises make marriages work.” Denis says that compromising (doing something different from what you might do) with your partner can lead to a better idea. I say let’s face it—we’re different people, and while we may have much in common, sometimes we have to follow a path that our partners are not inclined toward. Right now we are planning a road trip to Michigan, Canada, New York, Massachusetts, and Virginia in August. We’ll be gone a month and I’m looking forward to it. Denis wants to go to Thailand in October to teach at Xavier University in the Chiangrai area. I told him if the August trip doesn’t work out I would like to go to Thailand but that I don’t want to do both. It’s very possible with the virus situation neither will happen, but guess what—I signed up for a six-month writing zoom course from June 8 thru December 8. If the August trip works out, I’ll go because I can keep up with the writing while on the road, but Thailand is out either way. Denis understands.
It’s not that I don’t want to travel anymore, it’s that I want to slow it down. I’m thinking one four-week trip and one or two shorter trips throughout the year—at least that’s how I feel now. It could change. In the meantime Denis is constantly thinking about trips. Hahaha. It’s like I don’t need or have a chance to think about travel because he’s so far ahead of me. However he’s enjoyed this last year at home. It’s been good for both of us, I think.
Jill is right. I do worry about Denis’s health, but he’s much better now that we know his problem is asthma, and he is treating it accordingly. We were outside this morning, and he said thanks Dr. Weinberg for giving me my life back. Also he/we will take more precautions when traveling, avoiding risky situations like many over crowed cruise ships. There are some “more distanced” situations on ships we might consider. However it seems we’re home for a while longer as people continue to do stupid things and foster variants of the virus.
Oh and you’re making us feel like movie stars in the weekly podcasts! The truth is we’re just a couple of septuagenarians who may have figured out a couple of things. Hahaha.
Over and out,
Mary and Denis
Mary and Denis,
You ARE superstars to us. If we ever get to have our virtual or in-person events related to our podcast, we bet listeners will recognize your names as much as ours. 😊
Thanks for sharing your thought process about your upcoming trips. We’re excited you’re planning them, even if there’s still uncertainty about whether you’ll go to Thailand or not. We believe your sharing how you’re communicating about that helps everyone understand how to work through differences and compromises.
Jill is excited about Mary’s 6-month writing course, so she will email you about that.
We are also happy Denis knows what he’s dealing with physically.
We love you both!
We love you!!