Month: September 2019

Episode 39: When Pet Peeves Enter Your Relationship

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
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Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
Podcast Art: Nick Zinkie
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Pet Peeves: Everybody Has Them

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed their pet peeves, from the proper installation of toilet paper rolls to making the bed the right way.

So, what does you do if your partner is guilty of all your pet peeves?

Tony told listeners to run. Let that sink in for a moment.

He, of course, has more advice:

  • Communication is always the best policy when your loved one does something that irritates you
  • Remember to be calm when you tell them. Few people respond well when you yell or scream at them.
  • I was only half joking about running. If you talk to your partner about your pet peeves, and they purposely still do them, then you may need to remove yourself from the relationship.

Jill also urged listeners talk it out with their partner.

As always, she has other tips:

  • Recognize if you need to be direct instead of giving hints about your pet peeves
  • Realize that your partner has pet peeves, too, and try to alter your behavior accordingly
  • Don’t let your pet peeves turn you into a nag

What are your pet peeves? How do you handle letting your partner know if they are guilty of doing any of them?

Leave your responses in the comments section.

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Episode 38: When Your Relationship Changes Because you Did

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Expect to Evolve, Hope to Grow Together

In this week’s episode, Tony and Jill discussed how much they’ve changed since they first met. In their case, they believe their change, especially when they changed together, helped them reach an all-time high in their relationship. In essence, they believed their changes–individual ones and those they did as a couple–were mostly positive.

Jill brought up the times her changes resulted in a significant weight gain. She thanked Tony for not loving her any less.

Jill told listeners to avoid being a dream killer.

As always, she has other tips:

  • Expect change. Few people stay the same forever.
  • Embrace growth. Change is often a sign of moving forward.
  • Avoid staying in the past. Remember that you can’t change what has already happened, but you can grow and progress in the days ahead.

Tony advised listeners, when meeting someone, to really take the time to know the person.

He suggested they also do the following:

  • Be honest with yourself and with each other about changes.
  • Consider that change can either enhance or destroy a relationship, but don’t make snap judgments about it.
  • Strive for open communication, no matter the changes.

In what ways have you changed during your relationship with your significant other? How did your partner respond? Have you followed any of Jill and Tony’s suggestions? Which ones? Leave your responses in the comments section at the bottom of this page.

Thanks as always for your support. Join Jill and Tony in person at their first meetup related to this podcast. Details are near the top of this page.

Episode 37: The Myth About Introverts

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You May Be an Introvert

In this week’s episode, Jill revealed that she is actually an introvert when it comes to what energy makes her thrive; whereas Tony said he is either a hybrid of an introvert and an extrovert, or maybe he’s an extrovert.

You may not believe their conclusions, but it’s true, even if they only realized that about themselves recently.

In the podcast, Tony encouraged people to connect with others, regardless of whether they are an introvert or extrovert, in order to have a fulfilling life. He said you only need a few close friends.

He also has these tips:

  • Recognize that it doesn’t matter whether you are introverted or extroverted, as long as it doesn’t negatively affect your professional and personal life.
  • Avoid being a hermit. Do the things you enjoy outside of your home, even occasionally.
  • If you are an extrovert, do not try to outshine others around you, especially if you are in a relationship with an introvert.

Meanwhile, Jill told listeners to be who they really are, but try to step up if they have to in order to achieve their goals.

Her other suggestions are for introverts, like her:

  • Face your fears. For example, if it terrifies you to deliver a presentation or a speech, learn how to get out of your comfort zone by joining Toastmasters or finding help in another form.
  • Do not try to change your personality, even if someone else would prefer if you did. Instead, work on improving behaviors that you believe may be holding you back from meaningful roles and relationships.
  • Make time for self-care. If you find mandatory social gatherings draining, take the time to do the things that rejuvenate and relax after the event is over.

Do you believe Jill and Tony’s conclusions about themselves? How do you navigate social gatherings if you’re in a relationship with an introvert, but you are an extrovert, or vice-versa? Leave your responses in the comments section.

Thanks for your support. Keep listening!


Episode 36: When Friendship Codes Matter

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
Tech Op/Editor: Anthony Cordova
Music: Gifford Ivan Cordova III
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Coded Relationships

In this week’s relationship, Jill and Tony discussed facets of the bro code and sistah/girlfriend code. For example, women often live by an unspoken rule that anyone they are interested in is off limits to their friends.That often applies to when the friend is in the relationship with her love interest… and after it ends, too.

Tony took the conversation to a completely different place when he first described what’s included in the bro code. If you missed it, you’ll just have to listen to the episode.

In the meantime, Tony advised listeners to keep their number of close friends to a minimum. He said you should have only a few close friends, and some may even seem like or better than family.

He also has other tips:

  • Embrace having friendship codes if they enhance the respect level and create appropriate boundaries.
  • Be aware that some codes–the bro code, for example– can create an environment for cheating. Pay attention.
  • Discuss friendship codes with your friends and your partner. Transparency is great for relationships..

Jill also told listeners that to have good friends, you must be a good one. Lead by example.

She also has other advice:

  • Know who your true friends are. Not everyone is your friend.
  • Build all of your relationships on trust. Without it, what’s the point?
  • Respect your friend’s relationships with others, even those you personally do not care for. Surround yourself with people who respect your relationships, too.

What codes do you think friends and partners should have? What have you experienced that worked or failed? Please leave your responses in our comments section. Let us know what you thought of this episode too, while you’re at it.


Episode 35: Forget Imaginary Friends: Imaginary Conversations are In

Producer: Jill Cox-Cordova
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Imaginary Conversations

In this week’s episode, Jill brought up Tony’s habit of having conversations in his head that he thought they had aloud.

Jill was baffled about what to do about it, but still managed to advise listeners to either choose between making your partner aware of the situation or mess with your mate by making fun of the situation.

She also has other tips:

  • Consider whether there is a real issue. It could be something that the two of you laugh about or maybe it is indicative of something a little more serious
  • Pick and choose your battles. If it isn’t a real problem, don’t make it one.
  • Don’t take yourself so seriously. Live life with light and love.

Meanwhile, although Tony didn’t think he had this issue, he told listeners to not tell their partner if they have imaginary conversations. Of course, the issue is the person having these discussions in their head may not realize it.

He gave the following advice:

  • If your partner thinks they have said something to you out loud, but really only thought it, you should bare with them. It’s probably because they feel so connected to you. It’s nothing to worry about.
  • Watch their clues of smiling and laughing when they tell you about yourself. That means the situation is funny to them.
  • If your partner becomes angry when you discuss it, however, take the issue seriously. Perhaps your partner needs professional help.

Can you relate to this same situation? If so, what do you do about it? Leave your responses in the comments section.

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